Well, it has certainly been awhile since I last wrote. Don't even know why I'm writing or who I'm writing for, but nonetheless, I write. These past months have been the HARDEST months of my LIFE. I thought that I would never get better. But low and behold, I made it through the wreckage. Only 2 more weeks of physical therapy. Trying to get back to a state of normalcy. I feel as though I just took a huge exam from GOD. He was testing me to see how strong I truly was. And in return, he practically gave me everything that I've been striving for for so many years: I'm happy. I truly feel like a dark cloud has left my body and I'm starting to live again. I meeting new people, making new friendships, going on DATES (I know right!?) and just keeping an open mind about things. And I'm back to the old pre-diabetes body! For 8 years now, I've been trying to get back to the size I was before my pancreas went kuput. It's been a long battle, filled with unhealthy tricks and diets to try to be smaller. But instead I decided to get healthy and now I'm 30 pounds lighter and back to where I started from. But I think the biggest change for me is that I'm relying on myself for my own happiness and not in another person. If they want to share my happiness, then fine but it's stemming from me this time. And I'm taking things much slower when it comes to guys. Really get to know who they are and a sense of their character before I give my heart away. I'm still a hopeless romantic but I'm definitely able to put on the brakes if I need to. Currently, there's a somebody that I've been talking to that I'm pretty smitten with. But this time I'm taking it slow, no matter how much he makes me smile :)
Things are looking up. Just got a job working with kids at an Acting camp and hopefully I will become an Acting instructor in the fall. Don't have many complaints. Just trying to live my life
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Death is always knocking at my door...
This will be week #3 that I've been gravely ill. After two trips to the E.R., all signs still say Costochondritis. However the last ER trip should an irregular EKG. Doctor says that the EKG says Ischemia- Heart Disease. Dear God. Have to see a Cardiologist tomorrow to see if that is the case. If it is, that would explain all the chest pain and everything I'm going through, would deny Costochondritis but would confirm the more grave diagnosis and Ischemia Heart Disease. There's always something wrong. Even when I try to do right by my health, something's always wrong. Wish I could trade this body in for a new one.
I guess it would be right if I had a heart disease. My heart has gone through so much stuff it wouldnt surprise me if something was wrong with my actual heart. That would teach me not to wear my heart on my sleeve. Ha. Actually No, it's not even funny to me. This is just depressing and I wish someone could fix me.
Enough for now. Don't feel like writing anymore, or doing anything at this point for that matter.
I guess it would be right if I had a heart disease. My heart has gone through so much stuff it wouldnt surprise me if something was wrong with my actual heart. That would teach me not to wear my heart on my sleeve. Ha. Actually No, it's not even funny to me. This is just depressing and I wish someone could fix me.
Enough for now. Don't feel like writing anymore, or doing anything at this point for that matter.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
New Year, New Pain
Well 2010 ended the way the whole year has been, full of pain. Thanksgiving in the hospital, uneventful Christmas, and of course debilitating neuropathy and stomach pains on New Years Eve. 2010 has been quite a doosy, However, I survived--barely. Now I'm starting off the new year in pain. Physical pain that is, which is far less severe than the emotional pain I went through last year. Physical pain I can handle. It's like a little physical reminder saying, "hey you're not dead yet!" Off to yet another doctor's visit on the 23rd to see what the hell is wrong this time. At least I know that this time, unlike many of the other times, it's not my fault. I've been checking my blood sugars regularly, eating how I should, etc. My hypochondriac in me says that what I'm experiencing maybe Fibromyalgia, which is incurable. Whomp whomp. So who knows...I guess I'll find out soon. Until then I've just been coping, being sedated pretty much 24/7 to just make it through the day.
Alot of people have new year resolutions and things they want to do different in the new year. Well I dont have any resolutions because I think I am the way I want to be ever year. I will continue to do the things I need to do to keep my health in order...and that means to continue to get rid of the toxins: toxic food, relationships, people in general. I need to be healthy physically and mentally. I made a good change in my life in the last part of 2010 and I will continue to do so. Lets see what happens in 2011.
Alot of people have new year resolutions and things they want to do different in the new year. Well I dont have any resolutions because I think I am the way I want to be ever year. I will continue to do the things I need to do to keep my health in order...and that means to continue to get rid of the toxins: toxic food, relationships, people in general. I need to be healthy physically and mentally. I made a good change in my life in the last part of 2010 and I will continue to do so. Lets see what happens in 2011.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Honesty
I never thought that my life would be full of dishonest people. I'm not talking about about petty things like being fake or talking behind someones back. Those things I can stomach, just shake em lose and on to the next one. But the dishonesty I'm talking about is the one that consumes individuals that you deeply care about like your parents, your siblings, your significant others, your kids,etc: the kind of dishonesty that would cause one of your loved ones to lie directly to your face and feel no remorse, the kind that would cause someone to cheat and be unfaithful not caring what disease they may give you from this act. This year has been a doosey. It's unfortunate that things have finally come to light for me and now I understand why I've always been a cynic.
I've been too reckless these past 22 years with my heart. My love for humanity is great, more than anyone cares to realize. I hate to see anyone suffer because I know what it's like to suffer. I was bullied as a child so as a high schooler, I literally had a nervous breakdown because people in my class were being bullied and I tried to stand up for them and in return became the target for attacks. But now considering the disloyalty and dishonesty I've experienced in my college years, the bullies in high school feel like small fry.
I'm only writing this blog because I can't sleep as all the lies start to unravel and I put the memories of things said and memories of certain behaviors ,that I thought were locked in the file cabinet labeled number 4 in my brain, together. I guess you can call this my eureka moment or my "ah ha!" moment. And honestly, I'm not angry at all. I'm hurt and disappointed.
You can't know what it feels like to put your trust and your whole heart in someone and have them betray that trust. It literally causes physical pain. No one wants to know that the mother or father that gave them life would look you in the eye and lie to you. No one wants to know that the person you say I love you to is saying I love you to someone else. No one wants to know that the person you're supposed to marry is having an affair with someone else. no one wants to know that the person they've cherished for almost 3 years suddenly never wants to speak to you ever again and refuses to tell you why. I'm sad. I'm sad for humanity. I'm not saying I'm perfect. And I'm not saying that I've never told a lie in all my 22 years of life because I'm human but that's the sad part. We're human and through adaptation we've learned to tell lies to get what we want, maybe indirectly, but it's to fufill some want or need. If there's one thing I know about myself is that I'm a pretty honest person, almost to a fault sometimes. And I'm disappointed in myself because I expected everyone that came into my life to be as honest as I was, which was cleary not the case.
After the THanksgiving hospital visit, I wrote about my hard outer shell melting away. And now after having all these lies come to light for me, I'm actually very frightened because my armour that was supposed to protect me is gone and I'm vulnerable to being destroyed again by any person I encounter. I don't want to be this hard cynic but how can I continue showing the soft caring Dominique being exposed 24/7 for people to take advantage of my kindness and my love for humanity. I feel like crying a sea of tears and never leaving my bedroom. I want to lock the doors and never come out. Please give me the strength to be strong. When people all around you have secret agendas, who can u really trust but yourself. You think you know someone but in reality the only person you really know is yourself. I had to learn that blood means nothing. I had to learn that time doesn't matter.Kids don't matter, how many times doesn't matter, sex doesn't matter, a ring doesn't matter, WORDS don't matter. Because at the end of the day, people lie.
So I will ly in my bed in my locked room and cry for the human race as my sorrow-filled heart beats me to sleep.
I've been too reckless these past 22 years with my heart. My love for humanity is great, more than anyone cares to realize. I hate to see anyone suffer because I know what it's like to suffer. I was bullied as a child so as a high schooler, I literally had a nervous breakdown because people in my class were being bullied and I tried to stand up for them and in return became the target for attacks. But now considering the disloyalty and dishonesty I've experienced in my college years, the bullies in high school feel like small fry.
I'm only writing this blog because I can't sleep as all the lies start to unravel and I put the memories of things said and memories of certain behaviors ,that I thought were locked in the file cabinet labeled number 4 in my brain, together. I guess you can call this my eureka moment or my "ah ha!" moment. And honestly, I'm not angry at all. I'm hurt and disappointed.
You can't know what it feels like to put your trust and your whole heart in someone and have them betray that trust. It literally causes physical pain. No one wants to know that the mother or father that gave them life would look you in the eye and lie to you. No one wants to know that the person you say I love you to is saying I love you to someone else. No one wants to know that the person you're supposed to marry is having an affair with someone else. no one wants to know that the person they've cherished for almost 3 years suddenly never wants to speak to you ever again and refuses to tell you why. I'm sad. I'm sad for humanity. I'm not saying I'm perfect. And I'm not saying that I've never told a lie in all my 22 years of life because I'm human but that's the sad part. We're human and through adaptation we've learned to tell lies to get what we want, maybe indirectly, but it's to fufill some want or need. If there's one thing I know about myself is that I'm a pretty honest person, almost to a fault sometimes. And I'm disappointed in myself because I expected everyone that came into my life to be as honest as I was, which was cleary not the case.
After the THanksgiving hospital visit, I wrote about my hard outer shell melting away. And now after having all these lies come to light for me, I'm actually very frightened because my armour that was supposed to protect me is gone and I'm vulnerable to being destroyed again by any person I encounter. I don't want to be this hard cynic but how can I continue showing the soft caring Dominique being exposed 24/7 for people to take advantage of my kindness and my love for humanity. I feel like crying a sea of tears and never leaving my bedroom. I want to lock the doors and never come out. Please give me the strength to be strong. When people all around you have secret agendas, who can u really trust but yourself. You think you know someone but in reality the only person you really know is yourself. I had to learn that blood means nothing. I had to learn that time doesn't matter.Kids don't matter, how many times doesn't matter, sex doesn't matter, a ring doesn't matter, WORDS don't matter. Because at the end of the day, people lie.
So I will ly in my bed in my locked room and cry for the human race as my sorrow-filled heart beats me to sleep.
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Death, Ressurection, and Letting Go
Death is a funny thing. I think about it far to often for it to be healthy. But it's hard not to think about death when you have a chronic disease that takes so manY lives. I will admit that through the last 8 years, there have been times where I've given up on life. Life was too hard, the struggles of every day was too much, and loss was too great. Those were times that I was being selfish. Only thinking about a way out for myself. But this time was different...very different. This time I was fighting for life. Trying to keep my life together, trying to be the best employee, trying to impress my dad, I was trying. It seems I was being selfless, only thinking of how I could affect others. I guess I should have paid attention to myself more because this time death was more than a thought in my head; it was a reality.
I don't remember November 24. I remember the morning, going to work, feeling naseous and ill and going home. I remember thinking maybe I just need a nap. I remember the last insulin injection and reading 433 on my glucose meter. And the rest is blank. The memory just fades away like I'm in Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind I don't remember myself leaving my body or the look on my dads face when he found me. I don't remember seeing bright lights or all the lights going on in my house as my dad and stepmom frantically call 911. I don't remember how long I was out or how long the ride to Tulane was. I woke up the next day, realized where I was and felt like I truly had something to be thankful for this Thansgiving.
It wasn't filled with delicious Turkey and stuffing or cheesy baked macaroni. There was no laughter or dancing from tipsy family members. Thanksgiving was in the hospital with sounds of beeping from machines all around me. No alcohol but sodium chloride pumping thhrough my system. Not tipsy but hydrated from the IVs all over. No big extended family gathering but intimate gatherings around me from people who would truly care if I was gone. It wasn't a perfect holiday but it's one of most meaningful.
When something like his happens, it changes you. It's very different knowing that you failed evern though you were trying. It means I have to try harder. It means I have to change my priorities. It means putting my health first and everything after. For so long it's been my career first and then money,relationships, family,etc. My health has always been on the back burner because I guess in way I took for granted the resiliency of the human body. I must become selfish in a way and finally put me first and let everything else come after. I should control the things I can control like my health and let thing I can't control like the economy, the job market, the actions and feelings of others fix themselves.
And because of this new outlook on life, I'm letting everyhing go. I've finally understood why I'm a cynic and carry resentment. It all stems from acts of betrayal in my life. Being violated, my parents divorce, their secret marriages, getting diabetes, hurricane Katrina, my body, being used and taken advantage of, Tj and Jamie saga, being lied to all the time: Betrayal. Betrayal by family, parents, friends, boyfriends, and even God. Carrying all that and never being able to release it made me dwell in it causing more and more resentment. It made me hard. It made me so hard. Most mistook this hardness for strongness when in reality I was living in sorrow. I willnever go back to this. Holding on isn't good for the soul and my eyes have been opened. That week in the hospital I let it all go. All the resentment and sorrow, grief and betrayal, and the hard shell that took 22 years to develop just left my body. A wave of peace filled me instead and now I'm gonna work on loving life despite the everyday struggles. I want to truly be able to call myself a strong woman: a woman who's physically strong with a strong sense of self, a strong work ethic, a strong circle of friends, and a strong determination to be self sustaining.
I'm changing the way I think. I'm changing the way I feel. I'm changing the way I live.
I don't remember November 24. I remember the morning, going to work, feeling naseous and ill and going home. I remember thinking maybe I just need a nap. I remember the last insulin injection and reading 433 on my glucose meter. And the rest is blank. The memory just fades away like I'm in Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind I don't remember myself leaving my body or the look on my dads face when he found me. I don't remember seeing bright lights or all the lights going on in my house as my dad and stepmom frantically call 911. I don't remember how long I was out or how long the ride to Tulane was. I woke up the next day, realized where I was and felt like I truly had something to be thankful for this Thansgiving.
It wasn't filled with delicious Turkey and stuffing or cheesy baked macaroni. There was no laughter or dancing from tipsy family members. Thanksgiving was in the hospital with sounds of beeping from machines all around me. No alcohol but sodium chloride pumping thhrough my system. Not tipsy but hydrated from the IVs all over. No big extended family gathering but intimate gatherings around me from people who would truly care if I was gone. It wasn't a perfect holiday but it's one of most meaningful.
When something like his happens, it changes you. It's very different knowing that you failed evern though you were trying. It means I have to try harder. It means I have to change my priorities. It means putting my health first and everything after. For so long it's been my career first and then money,relationships, family,etc. My health has always been on the back burner because I guess in way I took for granted the resiliency of the human body. I must become selfish in a way and finally put me first and let everything else come after. I should control the things I can control like my health and let thing I can't control like the economy, the job market, the actions and feelings of others fix themselves.
And because of this new outlook on life, I'm letting everyhing go. I've finally understood why I'm a cynic and carry resentment. It all stems from acts of betrayal in my life. Being violated, my parents divorce, their secret marriages, getting diabetes, hurricane Katrina, my body, being used and taken advantage of, Tj and Jamie saga, being lied to all the time: Betrayal. Betrayal by family, parents, friends, boyfriends, and even God. Carrying all that and never being able to release it made me dwell in it causing more and more resentment. It made me hard. It made me so hard. Most mistook this hardness for strongness when in reality I was living in sorrow. I willnever go back to this. Holding on isn't good for the soul and my eyes have been opened. That week in the hospital I let it all go. All the resentment and sorrow, grief and betrayal, and the hard shell that took 22 years to develop just left my body. A wave of peace filled me instead and now I'm gonna work on loving life despite the everyday struggles. I want to truly be able to call myself a strong woman: a woman who's physically strong with a strong sense of self, a strong work ethic, a strong circle of friends, and a strong determination to be self sustaining.
I'm changing the way I think. I'm changing the way I feel. I'm changing the way I live.
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
A new pep in my step
So I havent blogged in a while and that's probably because I haven't just been sitting on my ass anymore lol. So I LOVE my job. It motivates me to get up and do something everyday. I never knew how rewarding going to a job you actually like could be. I finally have MONEY! Thank God! It feels so good not to be broke anymore. But I guess the biggest plus from the job is the new friends that I'm making! I was so depressed earlier when I moved back here to find that I had no true friends left to hang out with in New Orleans. But my co-workers are cool as fuck and I'm glad I'm washing away the toxic relationships of the past for the new relationships developing now. So all in all, things are looking up a bit. Still wish I had my own place, still wish I had love, but I'm content with life at the moment.
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